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Since 2013, my work has helped thousands of men and women around the world stop the mental movies, quiet the obsessive curiosity, and get their lives back.
What you're about to read is the starting point — a concise, practical guide to understanding what's actually driving your retroactive jealousy, and what to do about it.
Maybe you found my work on BBC News, Radio 4, HuffPost, or YouTube.
In the next few minutes, I’m going to tell you how I almost lost my first serious relationship because of retroactive jealousy.
As you may know by now, "retroactive jealousy” refers to unwanted intrusive thoughts, and often obsessive curiosity about a partner’s past relationships and/or sexual history.
And as you almost-certainly know by now, if you’re reading this page, it’s hell.
And it nearly cost me my sanity, and my relationship, once upon a time.
I want you to pay close attention here…
Years ago, I met a woman in college who I fell completely in love with. We lived in the same building, became close quickly, and within a few months I was more invested in this relationship than anything else in my life.
Then one day she told me a bit about her past. Nothing shocking. Nothing out of the ordinary. But something shifted in me that I couldn't explain and couldn't reverse.
The questions started. I told myself that if I just knew a little more, I'd feel better. But I never did, at least not for long. The more she told me, the worse it got.
The mental movies started — vivid, intrusive, impossible to switch off. I'd lie awake at night replaying scenes I'd constructed entirely in my own imagination.
I became someone she didn't recognize. Someone I didn't recognize. Obsessive, withdrawn, constantly pushing for more details while knowing full well the details were making everything worse.
Eventually she ended it. She had to. I'd made the relationship unbearable for both of us.
That loss forced me to take this seriously. I spent years reading everything I could find, trying therapy, meditation retreats, men's groups, online forums. Some of it helped temporarily. None of it got to the root of the problem.
So I kept going deeper — into the psychology of jealousy, obsessive thinking, and intrusive thoughts — until I finally built something that actually worked.
That's what's inside this book. Since 2013 it's helped thousands of people around the world start to get their lives back within just 24 hours.
I only wish it had existed when I needed it most.
Without being overly dramatic, you have truly changed my life. I am growing confidence daily and am making myself try new things. All because of you and your book...
I have control over my thoughts. My retroactive jealousy was out of control for a decade. After reading your book, I am becoming a new woman. People are noticing. I exude confidence. I still have moments where rj rears its ugly head but I can quickly stop it.
I suffered so deeply for so many years but I believe I will suffer no more. All because of your guidance. My relationship is better but more importantly, I am better.
In all honesty, I didnt believe I would ever get better. But in only about a month, I am a new me. Thank you. A thousand times over, Thank you Zachary.
UPDATE: Six years later...
I want you to know I am still doing great. I like to think my RJ is in "remission" lol!
I am still with the same partner and again, all because of you and your hard work. I know I wouldn't have been able to stay in my relationship (we were both miserable) without your book and support.
I truly do thank you for all you did for me! Take care and best wishes.
Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart.
I spent all Saturday reading your book and following each and every step. I’ve been meditating, working out, eating right, and working through the exercises. I know its barely been any time, but I feel like my old self again.
What’s more than that, I felt myself slip into a dark mood on Monday, and I OVERCAME it!!! In the same day. Without talking to my partner. Wow.
And I know that its working, because already my relationship has changed. Things feel so relaxed between us, and I can really feel the attraction naturally flowing between us in a lovely way. I just feel so much relief.
UPDATE: I am still with my lovely man that I wrote you about seven years ago.
We got married years ago and are currently living happily ever after. . . Kids coming soon after I graduate...
Your work was no small part of that! I am eternally grateful.
Since 2013, my unique, 2-part, step-by-step program for overcoming retroactive jealousy has been used by thousands of men and women to finally start "re-wiring" their brains, and getting over their partner’s past relationships and/or sexual history.
Addressing the Symptoms AND Root Causes
The tools inside Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy are not just easing the symptoms of retroactive jealousy, but help you start addressing the root causes of it.
This is the starting point of your retroactive-jealousy-free life.
And no, it’s doesn’t involve expensive counselors, medications, or endless meditation retreats.
These methods merely address the symptoms.
But if you don’t address the root cause, retroactive jealousy will creep back into your life faster than you think.
Here’s Why My 2-Part Reverse Retroactive Jealousy Method™ Works:
The whole system is divided into two parts.
And they’re designed to work hand in hand to help you finally get over your partner’s past.
(Regardless of the intimate details of your partner’s past.)
Part 1:
In the first part, we’ll go deep into the root causes of retroactive jealousy. You’ll discover what retroactive jealousy really is and how and why it’s dominating your brain.
If you don’t understand where retroactive jealousy comes from, you have about a 0 percent chance of taking control over it.
Instead, retroactive jealousy will establish control over you, and slowly and gradually ruin your life (and relationship).
Part 2:
In the second part, I give you practical tools to start addressing the symptoms of retroactive jealousy quickly and effectively.
To make things even easier for you… this method is completely step-by-step.
So as long as you can follow clear and easy-to-understand instructions and take the necessary steps… you’ll find this method immediately actionable, and immediately helpful.
Combine Parts 1 and 2, and you’ll soon see the “mental movies” and intrusive thoughts about your partner’s past start to disappear.
How do I know this method can work for anyone, and not just me?
Because since I published my Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy e-book/audiobook back in 2013, it has helped thousands of retroactive jealousy sufferers from around the world start healing, and gaining mental clarity, and peace of mind about their partner's past.
Don't believe me?
Here is what one of my readers said about my unique two-part method inside Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy:
Your book changed my life... It was everything I wanted to feel but couldn't put into words.
Words can't express what it did for me... My life did a complete 180...
I'm now enjoying my life again.
I Packed Everything (And More) In My Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy E-Book/Audiobook…
By now, you might be thinking…
"This is probably a complicated 8-week program…"
Nope!
In fact, it’s a slender 104-page e-book, and two-hour audiobook.
Divided into 19 chapters.
Why should you have to read a 500 page-long e-book that only repeats the same points, over and over again?
I always hated reading unnecessarily-lengthy books like this.
That’s why I wrote a punchy, concise, and easy-to-implement e-book, and left out all the fluff.
I wanted to give people something that would get them fast results, and help them to start healing ASAP.
Most of my readers finish it in one sitting and moments after… they immediately start to feel the ease in their chests.
Here’s How Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy Is Changing Lives:
★★★★★
If you have jealousy, even at all, you’ve just found the antidote!
Concise, yet chalk with wisdom, this book is your answer.
★★★★★
This book provides a safe, comfortable way to look at the constellation of symptoms associated with retroactive jealousy and provides ways to heal.
★★★★★
Thank God I found this book...
It put the final nail in this horrible coffin and made me feel like I truly moved on from retroactive jealousy.
You Don’t Have to Ruin Every Relationship You Get Into.
Most people try to find an intellectual “solution” for retroactive jealousy by asking their partner more questions about their past.
But the truth is…
Your partner has nothing to do with your healing.
They can’t fix this for you, no matter how hard they may try (or want to "fix this" for you).
You’re the one that needs to make a crucial mental switch, and I show you how to do it in Part 2 of my method.
Or, you risk retroactive jealousy ruining every relationship you get into for the rest of your life.
If you’re feeling anxious and/or consumed by thoughts of your partner’s past..
If imagining what others have done with your lover is keeping you up at night (and frequently disrupting your day)
If you’re tired of waking up and going to bed thinking about your partner’s sexual history and/or past relationships
If you're ready to start “getting your life back,” and feeling like your “old self” again
If you have questions about what your partner’s past really “means,” and if there could be “red flags” in their past
If you’re wracked by an obsessive curiosity about the details of your partner’s past relationships, and/or sexual history
These are all dangerous warning signs of RJ.
And if you're experiencing some or all of these symptoms, you are not alone.
I’ve been down this lonely road before, and it nearly destroyed my love life, as well as my career.
So I ask you:
Aren’t you tired of feeling like this?
The good news is you don't have to feel like this for any longer.
You can start healing right now, if you choose...
What REALLY causes retroactive jealousy: This helps you understand where your RJ is coming from and it will give you a better understanding of how to handle it.
4 Questions you NEED to ask yourself: Asking yourself these 4 crucial questions will help you make the decision of whether to bail out, or stay in your current relationship.
One important truth you need to confess to yourself: Getting this wrong can ruin ALL of your future (and current) relationships.
An easy-to-understand principle that will help you “forgive” your partner for their past: Simply read pages 25-28 any time you need some quick clarity and peace of mind.
Why retroactive jealousy can actually be GOOD for you: And yes, I’m absolutely serious: this section details how to take full advantage of this painful condition, and explode your personal growth.
How to re-program your mind to level-up your confidence: Confidence is the universal turn-on and you can learn how to attain it almost on-demand, using the “007 technique.”
A one sentence analogy that will ease your anger and anxiety about your lover’s past: Simply turn to page 42 and read the text in bold.
Another simple, actionable perspective that will help you become emotionally stable again: This analogy will not only help you in relationships, but also in your career, and family relationships.
How to revive, maintain, and even deepen your partner’s attraction to you over time: Many retroactive jealousy sufferers make this fatal mistake, and it ends up costing them their relationship.
An easy exercise you can apply immediately to stop thinking about your partner’s past: Perform this exercise any time you have an intrusive thought, or “mental movie” about their past.
Three questions you need to honestly answer yourself: Let me warn you… these are tough to answer and they might make you feel uncomfortable. But there’s no other way for you to ease your your retroactive jealousy, and start gaining permanent peace of mind.
A psychological “brain switch” that helps to stop all the erotic and sexual mental movies inside your head: This was one of the toughest for me, but super beneficial (page 64).
An easy task to re-program your mind and make you feel more confident and stable in your relationship: All you need is your smartphone or laptop, and your note-taking app of choice.
A transformative "letter-writing" exercise that will speak directly to free your subconscious from anxiety and worry about your partner's past: Many readers have written to tell me this simple exercise is "worth the price of the book alone."
And much, much more.
Fair question.
But let me ask you something…
How much would you pay for freedom from retroactive jealousy?
Imagine you get the key to:
This key could completely change your life, and save your relationship.
This key will put you on the fast-track to permanent peace of mind about your partner’s past.
So let me ask you again…
Would you pay $297 for this kind of information?
If you’d asked me this question back then when I lost my first serious relationship… I’d be ready to pay triple that price.
But…
You don’t have to pay that much.
Not even $197 or $147…
In fact, you can get my Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy e-book/audiobook for only $97 USD.
Yes, you read that right.
However, if you take action right now, you can have it for only $37.
No strings attached.
You might be wondering…
“But why so affordable?”
The low price reflects a simple belief: the people who need this most shouldn't have to choose between getting help and paying their bills. This has always been the entry point to my work — priced so that anyone serious about solving this has no excuse not to start today.
As you know by now, this issue is very personal for me.
And over the years, I've tried to do everything I can to help others overcome this horribly painful condition.
I shared my story on the front page of BBC News, to try and reach more people like you.
And nothing feels better than helping others avoid my mistakes, save their relationships (and sanity), and beat retroactive jealousy for good.
That's what this is about.
But don’t take my word for it…
★★★★★
Just amazing... It hasn't even been a month since I purchased the book, and it has already been an immense help.
I'm finally sleeping better, I'm eating better and exercising, and I haven't had any anxiety associated with thoughts of my partner's past in what feels like a good, long while.
★★★★★
You feel yourself changing from the beginning if you are ready to commit to change...
I received this book yesterday and I already finished it. I have felt my mind clearing and changing, along with my heart healing. This is a great guide if you are truly ready to commit and overcome your partner’s past.
★★★★★
As one who has experienced retroactive jealousy with extreme intensity, I can only thank Zachary Stockill from the bottom of my heart for writing this book. I only wish it had been written thirteen years ago and I had known of it then!
Having read this book twice now, I no longer fear for my future or the darkness returning.
★★★★★
Life-changing... Thank-you for reminding me of my worth!
A must read for any relationship. Truly a masterpiece that you have created.
★★★★★
The book suggests simple and concrete exercises everyone is capable of doing that can alter your brain's obsessive tendencies and emotional reactivity... These exercises are simple enough to understand and very, very effective...
If you do these exercises once or twice a week, especially the pen to paper exercises, you WILL achieve your desired results.
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This book is beyond awesome. Words can't even describe how much I enjoyed this book.
I bought this book as a last resort for myself, and I'm blown away by how helpful it was. It's very easy to read and understand, unlike some self help books. I would recommend this to anyone suffering from retroactive jealousy.
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After a bit of research and realizing I have been suffering from RJ, I decided to read this book. I was desperate to heal; the thoughts of my partner's previous sexual encounters would play like a full length movie in my head. It would create anxiety and mental exhaustion and I wanted to get rid of it.
From the moment I started reading this book I couldn't put it down... Within a short amount of time, I'm able to control my thoughts and emotions much better than I was just a short while ago.
I highly recommend this book as the beginning step for self-healing and to get rid of RJ.
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This is the best book I've ever read. I am so grateful to have found it...
It's helping me so much already. Truly inspirational.
After I read your book twice, I did not care about my partner's past anymore. Your book was amazing and helped me so much.
I really hope that people with this problem will find your book they way I did so that they too can fix this issue...
[Your book] helped me understand that what I have been feeling wasn’t just personal to me and accept that it’s something I don’t need to suffer with.
I already feel so so different than I did last week and I can feel myself letting go of things I held on to that made me so upset and depressed.
I felt like I was on the brink of fully giving into the dark feelings and depression but have managed to pull myself out and feel myself again...
I’m so grateful, you have saved my relationship and more importantly you have saved me from so much suffering... I couldn’t be more thankful.
To date I have read all 5 books I can find on retroactive jealousy.
Without a doubt, yours was the one that changed my trajectory and happiness.
To find out I wasn’t alone, I wasn’t crazy and I was in power to help myself was such a positive thing in my life. I am doing so much better now... A more empowered and stronger human.
So much of my progression and improvement was because of your book. Your words were so re-assuring. It was great to read compared to others. One of the other books actually triggered me more than helped. Another was obviously a ripoff of your book.
This problem is real and I can’t believe it doesn’t have more coverage.
I bought your book and in one night read more than half of it... and for the first time in a long time I feel hope that this won't be something I will be stuck with until the day I die.
Hope that barely coping, which was all I thought I would ever be able to do, will not be the only way I can deal with this.
Hope that I can actually get past it, and do as you have done and make something more of myself and my life and my relationship with my amazing beautiful wonderful wife, and give her the husband she deserves.
Thank-you so much.
You've already spent enough time stuck in this. Every day you stay here costs you something — your peace, your presence in the relationship, your sense of self.
The decision in front of you is simple. Stay where you are, or take the first concrete step toward getting out.
Thousands of people who were exactly where you are right now chose to take that step. Most of them wish they'd done it sooner.
The book is waiting for you. And so is the version of you that isn't controlled by this anymore.
Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy e-book
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Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy audiobook
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If you purchase right now, on this page, I'll also include in a free bonus download of my original, 20-minute guided meditation recording designed to help you overcome RJ even faster.
These will take your retroactive jealousy recovery to the next level.
You can just plug in your favorite headphones and let the meditation do the magic for you.
Many readers say this simple meditation was a game changer for their recovery.
This is a one-time offer and you won’t see this deal anywhere else.
I've watched this method work for thousands of people since 2013. I'm confident it will work for you too.
Go through the material. Do the exercises. But if you don't feel a meaningful shift within 60 days — email me and I'll refund every cent, no questions asked.
The only risk is staying where you are.
Talk soon,
Your work on retroactive jealousy is nothing short of brilliant... It has helped me tremendously.
My case of RJ was not terribly severe but it was enough to cause me considerable unease and angst. And get this, it was about stuff that happened 40 years ago!
Twice in the past, I experienced retroactive jealousy and thought I had resolved it. Then one month ago it resurfaced and I decided to meet it head on. I purchased your ebook/audiobook and then got to work.
Indeed retroactive jealousy was a blessing in disguise. Now, I'm a lot more comfortable in my own skin.
Again my deep and sincere thanks and gratitude for your work.
Just finished your book... Zachary, I can't thank you enough for your work...
I won’t get into details, but just know that I’ve been trying to figure out what the hell’s going on with me for over 3 years (not to mention my entire life), but it’s your work in particular that has set me straight.
I just know I can let it go now. It’s a subtle feeling, but there’s a knowingness there.... Thank you for putting yourself out there as you have. Much appreciated.
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