You've Tried to Logic Your Way Out of This. It Hasn't Worked.
Sometimes the fastest path forward is working closely with someone who's been there — and spent over a decade helping others find their way out.
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One-on-One Coaching with Zachary Stockill
You already know the intrusive thoughts about your partner's past are irrational. You've told yourself that a hundred times. And it hasn't made them stop.
That's because this isn't a logic problem. It's deeper than that. And trying to "think your way out of it" alone — or explain it to someone who's never experienced it — often makes it worse.
What actually moves the needle is working directly with someone who understands exactly what you're going through, has seen it hundreds of times, and knows precisely what works and what doesn't.
Since 2013, I've worked one-on-one with over a thousand men and women from around the world — helping them go from obsessive, relentless intrusive thoughts to genuine peace of mind, often faster than they thought possible.
If you're ready to stop spinning your wheels and actually solve this, once and for all, keep reading.
No more "mental movies." No more obsessive thoughts.
Experience for yourself the incredible liberation of overcoming retroactive jealousy. When we work together, you will discover:
New perspectives and techniques for letting go of obsessive thinking about your partner's past fast
A supportive, non-judgmental environment to share your retroactive jealousy story
My honest feedback, suggestions, and strategies for healing from RJ in your specific situation
Save and strengthen your relationship--before it's too late.
Retroactive jealousy has been responsible for more than a few breakups and divorces. Get the support you need for fast healing, including:
Methods for limiting anxiety and "mental movies" and "triggers" in the moment
New techniques, perspectives, and strategies for repairing some of the damage done to your relationship
The unique perspective of someone with almost a decade of experience working with retroactive jealousy sufferers from every corner of the world
Sort out the "values" question once and for all.
One of my strengths as a coach is helping RJ sufferers spot the difference between irrational RJ, and genuine "red flags" in their relationship
Get an unbiased, impartial outside opinion about whether or not there are genuine "red flags" and/or "dealbreakers" in your partner's past
Get in touch with your personal boundaries and values, and gain greater insight on how to build the relationship of your dreams
Save yourself years of stress and confusion, and determine whether your jealousy is "irrational" or "rational" once and for all
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One-on-One Coaching with Zachary Stockill
Hi. I'm Zachary.
I'm an author, coach, YouTuber and podcaster, and the founder of RetroactiveJealousy.com.
Since 2013, I've been helping men and women from around the world overcome obsessive curiosity and intrusive thoughts about their partner's past, and save their relationships.
I've worked one-on-one with hundreds of retroactive jealousy sufferers from all over the world, helping them gain quick clarity and peace of mind about their partner's past, and beat retroactive jealousy for good.
I work with a select number of high-achieving, highly-motivated retroactive jealousy sufferers who are willing to make an investment in their future, who are open to time-tested, proven advice, and who are willing to making the necessary changes to build a life free from retroactive jealousy.
As you probably realize, nowadays, anyone with a social media account or a YouTube channel can go around calling themselves a "coach."
So in case you were wondering...
"What makes you different from other coaches?"
My work has been featured in major media publications, and cited in research conducted at Harvard and the Ohio State University.
Over a decade, I've worked with over 1000+ retroactive jealousy sufferers from every corner of the planet.
I've worked with minor celebrities, multi-millionaires, students, CEO's, young people, the elderly, and everyone in between.
Go to my website, or read below, and you'll find dozens of detailed, 5-star testimonials from my clients...
Men and women who are thrilled to be fully enjoying their relationships again, where retroactive jealousy is a thing of the past (and not the present).
I hold a certificate in Cognitive Behavior Therapy from Wilfrid Laurier University (Canada), and my methodology is a based on a wide range of modern coaching modalities and cutting-edge research.
Simply put:
You will not find a coach with more experience helping people move on from unwanted, intrusive thoughts about their partner's past.
More than a decade of full-time coaching experience has taught me something:
The path to peace of mind--the path to freedom from retroactive jealousy--is similar for most of my clients.
And having a highly-experienced, dedicated coach can seriously speed things up...
So if you're ready to move on from the relentless intrusive thoughts, and put the final nail in the coffin of RJ, you're in the right place.
However--
If you don't see the value of coaching, or you're not sure if you want to make an investment in beating retroactive jealousy and gaining clarity and peace of mind, coaching isn't for you.
I only work with people who are truly serious, truly excited about working together.
So if you're serious about wanting to overcome retroactive jealousy for good, you want dedicated one-on-one guidance and support from someone who actually "gets it," and you're ready to build a better future and relationship, I'd love to help.
But please note that there is a strictly limited number of one-on-one coaching slots available.
Once my coaching roster fills up, I will not be taking on new clients for the time being.
And my roster may not open up again for several months.
So please click the orange button below and apply as soon as possible if you're serious about wanting to work together one-on-one.
If you'd like to get started on the path to peace of mind, now is the time.
Let's work together to get to the bottom of your retroactive jealousy, let go of painful unwanted thoughts, craft your own personalized plan for healing, and start overcoming retroactive jealousy right now.
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My 3-Step Plan for our First Call
For our first call together, I will follow a time-tested, proven 3-step structure to make the best possible use of your time:
01
Share your story.
First, I'll ask you to share your retroactive jealousy story in as much detail as possible. Remember that, over many years of coaching, I have seen and heard it all--you won't find any judging here. The more you share with me, the more specific, actionable advice I'll be able to offer.
02
Obtain specific feedback on your situation.
As you share, I'll ask follow-up questions for maximum clarity. Then, I'll share my specific advice and insight tailored to you, and your unique situation. Simply put: I know what works and what doesn't--and that's exactly what I'll share with you, depending on your needs.
03
Answer additional questions + follow-up.
Toward the end of our first call, I will answer any additional questions you may have about your retroactive jealousy story, or anything else. I am absolutely committed to getting you the most possible value out of our time together, and helping you find freedom from retroactive jealousy.
A proven, step-by-step system that works.
My coaching methodology involves:
Mentorship
In me, you will find an ally, a coach, a former retroactive jealousy sufferer who knows exactly what you're going through, and how best to start healing as quickly as possible.
Follow-up support
As soon as you become a client, my email inbox will be open to you. Send me any follow-up questions you may have, and I'll get back to you with answers ASAP
Over a decade of experience
Take advantage of my decade+ of experience working with retroactive jealousy survivors from around the world. Learn quickly exactly what works, and what doesn't.
Additional resources
Depending on your situation, and your unique needs, I may recommend additional exercises and resources which will speed up your recovery even further
Reserve your spot today.
Sign up for one-on-one coaching, and get access to:
Confidential, 1-on-1 video/telephone coaching calls with Zachary Stockill
Confidential personalized email coaching as necessary
Complimentary online course access
Personalized exercises and strategies tailored to you
(Optional) secret Facebook group access 6
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Meet Paul, a former coaching client:
Paul
Canada
I would play movies in my mind all the time... I would torture my girlfriend with questions about things that happened 20 years ago... I was at the lowest point of my life.
Now, I am in a totally different spot. I've gone through a hyper-change of attitude over the past eight weeks. It's been life changing for me, really.
Honestly, I don't think you could ask for a better coach... I owe you a debt of gratitude.
Or Bill, another former client:
Bill
USA
I never was able to stop thinking about [my wife's past]... I was losing sleep, anxiety was sky high...
Now, I'm sleeping well... My relationship with my wife is better than its ever been... I honestly feel like the work we did completely fixed me.
I can tell you for sure there is no way I would be where I am now without your coaching... I now feel as though I have conquered retroactive jealousy, I really do.
Or Mark, another former client:
Mark
Canada
[Mental movies of my girlfriend's past] were the first thing I was thinking of in the morning, and the last thing I was thinking of at night...
Now, the difference is amazing... In a few weeks I went from having these thoughts all day long to maybe once or twice a week...
Coaching was a blessing for me, big time.
Meet Zach, another former client:
(Some personal details hidden to ensure client privacy)
I was on the verge of breaking up with a girl who was a VERY good girlfriend simply because she had a past.
I remember laying in bed at night literally pounding my head against the pillow wanting obsessive thoughts about her past to stop...
I had a call with Zach, and we started working together. Within days I was feeling better overall. Within weeks I was back to my normal self with occasional “episodes”
And here we are less than a year later and her past has zero emotional control over me. I honestly can’t remember the last time I had an “episode” of RJ...
And because of Zach’s coaching, instead of going onto ChatGPT researching statistics about girls with a past (hopefully I’m not the only one that did that) I’m researching wedding venues, engagement rings, and am more emotionally mature than ever before...
I feel like I’ve gained 100 years of growth in 100 days. So I couldn’t recommend Zach more.
I was on the verge of breaking up with a girl who was a VERY good girlfriend simply because she had a past.
I remember laying in bed at night literally pounding my head against the pillow wanting obsessive thoughts about her past to stop...
I had a call with Zach, and we started working together. Within days I was feeling better overall. Within weeks I was back to my normal self with occasional “episodes”
And here we are less than a year later and her past has zero emotional control over me. I honestly can’t remember the last time I had an “episode” of RJ...
And because of Zach’s coaching, instead of going onto ChatGPT researching statistics about girls with a past (hopefully I’m not the only one that did that) I’m researching wedding venues, engagement rings, and am more emotionally mature than ever before...
I feel like I’ve gained 100 years of growth in 100 days. So I couldn’t recommend Zach more.
Zach
USA
Or 'E':
If I were to summarize Zachary in one word, it would be “Godsend”.
My life was hell, a never-ending, 24/7 living nightmare...
I tried everything, every possible way to get over my RJ: therapy, supplements, psychedelics, but nothing worked, as a matter of fact, it got worse. My breaking point came one night in the form of a crying frenzy that lasted for two hours. I was on the verge of losing the love of my life...
Over the two months I worked with Zachary, my RJ started to disappear gradually. In the end, not only did I get cured, my sessions with him transformed my state of mind and opened a doorway for a whole new way of life and mindset.
Getting over RJ was the main goal, which I did, but I can honestly say that I came out of my experience with him a changed man. I found serenity, peace, happiness and most of all wisdom that fundamentally changed my life for the better. I can not thank Zachary enough. I am now living my life to the fullest with the woman I am thankful to have every day.
As I said, “Godsend”….”
'E', USA
Or Andrew:
I was in a VERY dark place with retroactive jealousy. One night at work I sat crying... thinking there is no way out of this.
We had our online meeting, discussed a daily routine, and just like that--for 4-5 weeks, RJ was gone, not even a thought.
I'm the happiest I've ever been in my relationship... I want to thank-you from the bottom of my heart for helping me through it.
Andrew, UK
Or John:
I’ve unfortunately run into several so-called therapists that were more like money managers. To do what Zachary does requires innovation, integrity, and brilliance.
I took the course online and did personal coaching... His wisdom and actual passion shines through when you talk to him. He’s a normal, well meaning dude.
Zachary is the man... He helped me get over a problem I’ve had for 30 years.
John, USA
Or Jonathan:
You coached me with the right combo of compassion and understanding mixed with tough love and sound advice.
I'm now in a great headspace... I no longer feel anxious and I have a healthier outlook on life in general and more specifically, retroactive jealousy.
In fact, sometimes I'm so free of it that I find it hard to believe or remember what it was like to be in the throes of it...
Jonathan, USA
Or Paul:
I felt like an idiot after I said yes to this coaching, thought what can I really get out of this. Now I know it has changed my life...
You have kept me rooted, given me techniques and pointed me towards being the man I want to see in the mirror...
I'm truly not sure where I'd be right now without having the insights you've provided... I mean this sincerely: thank you.
Paul, Canada
Meet Charlie, another former client:
I had my first client-coach session with Zachary last night and I'm SO incredibly glad that I did.
I felt that I'd never know pleasure in life again as the depression had become too deep... but within one hour, Zachary managed to take this broken soul and breathe life back into it...
If you haven't looked into the coaching sessions yet, my goodness do I recommend it! Literal game-changer for me.
Charlie, UK
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Hundreds More Success Stories From Around The World
Since 2013, my work has helped thousands of men and women from around the world beat retroactive jealousy for good. Hear more of their stories below:
My wife said that she doesn't want me to spend anything on her for Christmas because the transformation I have made is the best thing she could have ever hoped for...
But seriously, the improvements in my quality of life has been tremendous and the secondary improvements that my wife, family and employees have received have made this the closest thing to a Christmas miracle I have ever seen...
My wife said that she doesn't want me to spend anything on her for Christmas because the transformation I have made is the best thing she could have ever hoped for...
But seriously, the improvements in my quality of life has been tremendous and the secondary improvements that my wife, family and employees have received have made this the closest thing to a Christmas miracle I have ever seen...
Chris
USA
Before I found Zachary Stockill's coaching, I was constantly stuck in my own head. Overthinking, comparing, and stressing about things that had nothing to do with the present moment.
Retroactive jealousy was draining the joy out of my relationship and clouding my thinking.
Zach's coaching didn't just give me tools to manage those thoughts. It completely changed how I see myself, my partner, and life in general. It was honest, down-to-earth, and spoke to me in a way that actually made sense.
Working through the material helped me let go of old thought patterns and opened the door to something deeper. I've since found myself on a path of genuine growth and even a kind of spiritual awakening I never expected.
I'm genuinely grateful.
Before I found Zachary Stockill's coaching, I was constantly stuck in my own head. Overthinking, comparing, and stressing about things that had nothing to do with the present moment.
Retroactive jealousy was draining the joy out of my relationship and clouding my thinking.
Zach's coaching didn't just give me tools to manage those thoughts. It completely changed how I see myself, my partner, and life in general. It was honest, down-to-earth, and spoke to me in a way that actually made sense.
Working through the material helped me let go of old thought patterns and opened the door to something deeper. I've since found myself on a path of genuine growth and even a kind of spiritual awakening I never expected.
I'm genuinely grateful.
James
UK
I suffered from intense RJ for a while and saw therapists, but nothing seemed to help me. I felt like a hopeless case.
Then I had the honor to work with Zach, and my life changed! Not only did my RJ become better, but also how I approach setbacks in life in general.
The way Zach coaches makes you feel comfortable and seen, and you can really tell that he cares and wants to help you overcome RJ. The tools and coaching he provides are exactly what someone with RJ needs.
I wish I had worked with Zach a lot sooner!
I suffered from intense RJ for a while and saw therapists, but nothing seemed to help me. I felt like a hopeless case.
Then I had the honor to work with Zach, and my life changed! Not only did my RJ become better, but also how I approach setbacks in life in general.
The way Zach coaches makes you feel comfortable and seen, and you can really tell that he cares and wants to help you overcome RJ. The tools and coaching he provides are exactly what someone with RJ needs.
I wish I had worked with Zach a lot sooner!
V
Sweden
Thank-you for such a great one-on-one conversation.
The insight and input you gave me was huge... I found huge value in our time together and got things from you I would not have received anywhere else. It's already made a difference...
Thank-you again for all of your work.
Thank-you for such a great one-on-one conversation.
The insight and input you gave me was huge... I found huge value in our time together and got things from you I would not have received anywhere else. It's already made a difference...
Thank-you again for all of your work.
J
USA
Knowing that RJ was irrational was a first step, but I desperately needed a way out...
Zach served as the best possible mentor for love, life and masculinity for me. I don’t know what I’d do without his work.
Knowing that RJ was irrational was a first step, but I desperately needed a way out...
Zach served as the best possible mentor for love, life and masculinity for me. I don’t know what I’d do without his work.
"Christopher"
UK
Thank you for yesterday... I found it to be very helpful.
I appreciate that your approach is not simply validating what I'm saying/feeling, but actually reading into the context of my "situation" and taking a more nuanced approach.
I find that one-size-fits-all cookie-cutter approach to be the most frustrating thing I've encountered with therapists I've tried working with...
Talking with someone like you who understands these specific struggles is refreshing to say the least.
Thank you for yesterday... I found it to be very helpful.
I appreciate that your approach is not simply validating what I'm saying/feeling, but actually reading into the context of my "situation" and taking a more nuanced approach.
I find that one-size-fits-all cookie-cutter approach to be the most frustrating thing I've encountered with therapists I've tried working with...
Talking with someone like you who understands these specific struggles is refreshing to say the least.
"B"
USA
You truly understand this weird issue and have provided me with so much relief...
I really have felt that you can completely relate, and know exactly what to do... You have reassured me that there is nothing wrong with my relationship and did a great job at separating the two from the irrational thought process...
Thank you for everything. You have actually changed my life.
You truly understand this weird issue and have provided me with so much relief...
I really have felt that you can completely relate, and know exactly what to do... You have reassured me that there is nothing wrong with my relationship and did a great job at separating the two from the irrational thought process...
Thank you for everything. You have actually changed my life.
"Alison"
USA
Zachary is a deep and great listener. He will make you feel important when you speak and then show you how to reframe your thought process that will ultimately make you feel more confident about the situation.
After only speaking with him for an hour it changed my thought process and helped me achieve what I wanted much faster...
It was very helpful.
Zachary is a deep and great listener. He will make you feel important when you speak and then show you how to reframe your thought process that will ultimately make you feel more confident about the situation.
After only speaking with him for an hour it changed my thought process and helped me achieve what I wanted much faster...
It was very helpful.
Jason
USA
Working with Zachary has been transformative for my dating life and general approach to understanding women.
As someone who has suffered from retroactive jealousy and social anxiety, having someone with Zachary's wisdom and empathy to help light the way has been invaluable. Not only is Zachary insightful and well-read, he also makes a genuine effort to get to know you individually and tailor his advice to your specific context and personality.
Zachary is so kind and wise that I often feel like I'm talking to the wise older brother who's looking out for me and wants me to realize my potential and live life to the fullest...
Working with Zachary has been transformative for my dating life and general approach to understanding women.
As someone who has suffered from retroactive jealousy and social anxiety, having someone with Zachary's wisdom and empathy to help light the way has been invaluable. Not only is Zachary insightful and well-read, he also makes a genuine effort to get to know you individually and tailor his advice to your specific context and personality.
Zachary is so kind and wise that I often feel like I'm talking to the wise older brother who's looking out for me and wants me to realize my potential and live life to the fullest...
Andres
USA
It's hard to describe how different I feel now compared to a couple of months ago...
As you know, I suffered from RJ for almost two years... There's no way I could've gotten to this point of peace again without you.
Getting the chance to share my story with you and getting your personal thoughts and encouragement was unbelievable... I was stunned by your listening ability, to give such spot-on and useful advice.
You totally changed my life for the good... I'm forever grateful.
It's hard to describe how different I feel now compared to a couple of months ago...
As you know, I suffered from RJ for almost two years... There's no way I could've gotten to this point of peace again without you.
Getting the chance to share my story with you and getting your personal thoughts and encouragement was unbelievable... I was stunned by your listening ability, to give such spot-on and useful advice.
You totally changed my life for the good... I'm forever grateful.
"Raymond"
Belgium
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My Personal Guarantee to You:
Clarity and Peace of Mind Await
I've worked one-on-one with over a thousand retroactive jealousy sufferers. I know what works, and I know how to get you there.
But I also know that investing in coaching takes courage — especially when you've already tried other things that didn't deliver.
So here's my commitment to you:
Show up to the calls. Take the steps I outline. If after 30 days you haven't made meaningful progress, email me and I'll give you two additional weeks of unlimited personal email coaching, completely free.
No hoops. No fine print. Just results — or I keep working with you until you get them.
I'm willing to make that commitment because in over a decade of doing this, the people who show up and do the work always move forward. Always.
The only question is whether you're ready to become one of them.
I can't tell you how gratifying it has been for me to work one-on-one with hundreds of men and women from around the world, helping them take back the power, save their relationships, and beat retroactive jealousy for good.
If we work together, I will always take your trust and support seriously. I will be committed to helping you get the fast relief you need, and building the future you deserve--a future with clarity and peace of mind. A future without retroactive jealousy.
I can't wait to help you get your retroactive jealousy handled once and for all.
Talk soon,
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